Dr mOe believes one key to success is "stop trying to make a dollar and start trying to make a difference!" Dallas radio host KJ and Dr. mOe discuss this advice and much more during this fun and informative interview!
Thursday, October 26, 2017
Tuesday, October 24, 2017
It means that when they speak, they have learned to control the tone of their voice, the pace of their voice, and the content of their remarks so that it is difficult to gauge what they are thinking. This gives them a distinct advantage because others cannot anticipate their actions or reactions. It makes them appear more powerful and superior to ordinary people.
This is a critical skill for work and home: watch your body language. Make sure it is consistent with your words.
After body language, watch your tone. Try to keep it neutral at all times. In the bestseller, The Forty-Eight Laws of Power, the authors assert that "An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings."
All of know at least one drama queen or drama king. They love to yell and make a scene when they're offended. While all of that screaming might make them feel better in the short term, in the long term it does nothing for their careers or their relationships. I mean, how often can you give someone a piece of your mind before you run out of brain?
Dr. Richard Carlson makes a suggestion that I have found extremely helpful in dealing with difficult situations. He says, "Before becoming defensive, take note of what is being said…Reacting in a defensive manner usually involves a knee-jerk or instantaneous reaction to something that is being said. Someone makes a comment and you feel hurt.
Pause a moment and ask yourself these questions before you react. "Does the comment make sense? Is there an element of truth in it? Can you learn something here? Or is the person simply being a jerk?" (Don't Sweat The Small Stuff at Work, Hyperion 1998, p. 203-204)
If there’s something you can use, take it and run with it!
Friday, August 18, 2017
Need a professional chuckle? Click on this video excerpt from my recent presentation on managed care dental programs during the National Dental Association Conference in Dallas, Texas. If you are in a hurry, skip to 8.13 where I relay my first experience with the Employee Assistance Progam aka EAP.
Making the transition from serial entrepreneur to corporate America can be stressful. An important part of personal growth is developing a sense of humor! #successisasideeffect #needaspeaker?
Sunday, August 6, 2017
Sunday, June 11, 2017
Verbally agreeing to everything someone is saying when I vehemently disagree internally is, shall we say, not one one of my strengths. Listening carefully while quietly reflecting in order to give a measured, thoughtful response at some future date is smart and professional. I do that often. I just cannot, in good conscious, endorse a plan I sincerely believe is doomed for epic failure in order to gain someone's confidence or approval. For men, this trait garners respect. They say the guy has a spine. In women, well, I only speak for myself---so in this woman's life, a propensity for giving an honest opinion has not always served me well. Instead of shattering the glass ceiling, it became a reason to install limousine tint, bars, and an armed guard to keep me in my place.
What becomes of a person who can't look up and see beyond their circumstances?
That should have made me a YES woman, but it didn't. It only made me distrustful and overly cautious. Then, I saw the movie, "Yes, Man" starring Jim Carrey. I don't even like his movies that much but, for some reason I can't explain, I decided to try it. I started saying yes to every legal invitation I received. It was a bit frightening but guess what happened? I went kayaking for the first time! I sang a solo at my parents' fiftieth wedding anniversary! Lol! As I am a horrible singer, this was a huge leap of faith. I bought a round of drinks (Dr. Pepper) for the bar! I collaborated with a new group of entrepreneurs on an amazing initiative. I took chances.
I realized that I had let control take control of me. The pitiful glass ceiling in my career only covered one room. I simply had to move. In doing so, I kicked down walls, opened my fists, and felt a sense of exhilaration I hadn't felt since Six Flags over Texas installed a double loop roller coaster. Guess what happens to a ceiling without support?
Feeling trapped? Let go of the need to know the end of every beginning. Take a chance on something new and let the sunshine in.
Monica Frazier Anderson
Thinking of leaving that corporate job and starting your own business? That's a great idea but there are many important factors to consider before you take the plunge. In this audio excerpt, Dr. mOe shares important questions you should ask and answer before you make a commitment that will impact every aspect of your life. Dr. mOe is a serial entrepreneur who has achieved business success in retail, health care, real estate, and publishing. Hear her share lessons learned and best practices from her own experiences. For more, subscribe to her iTunes podcast and YouTube channel. Then, visit her website at www.drmoeanderson.com today!
Friday, February 3, 2017
France is one of my favorite places to visit in Europe, especially Paris. When I got the opportunity to go skiing at the 2nd largest ski resort in the world, Paradiski in LaPlagne France, I was ecstatic.Wow! Experience of a lifetime. During one excursion between ski classes, we took a ride on the Bobsleigh track used in the '92 Winter Olympics. Our speed reached 80km/h. It was a jarring, exhilarating adrenaline rush! That's me - second from the front - light teal ski jacket. I have had a bucket list since I turned 40 years old. I could not cross bobsleighing off my list because I never dreamed of putting it on there! Lesson learned. Life is not a test. It's okay if some questions go unanswered.
Remember, your bucket list is not for dying, it's for living. Carpe diem!