Sunday, June 11, 2017
Verbally agreeing to everything someone is saying when I vehemently disagree internally is, shall we say, not one one of my strengths. Listening carefully while quietly reflecting in order to give a measured, thoughtful response at some future date is smart and professional. I do that often. I just cannot, in good conscious, endorse a plan I sincerely believe is doomed for epic failure in order to gain someone's confidence or approval. For men, this trait garners respect. They say the guy has a spine. In women, well, I only speak for myself---so in this woman's life, a propensity for giving an honest opinion has not always served me well. Instead of shattering the glass ceiling, it became a reason to install limousine tint, bars, and an armed guard to keep me in my place.
What becomes of a person who can't look up and see beyond their circumstances?
That should have made me a YES woman, but it didn't. It only made me distrustful and overly cautious. Then, I saw the movie, "Yes, Man" starring Jim Carrey. I don't even like his movies that much but, for some reason I can't explain, I decided to try it. I started saying yes to every legal invitation I received. It was a bit frightening but guess what happened? I went kayaking for the first time! I sang a solo at my parents' fiftieth wedding anniversary! Lol! As I am a horrible singer, this was a huge leap of faith. I bought a round of drinks (Dr. Pepper) for the bar! I collaborated with a new group of entrepreneurs on an amazing initiative. I took chances.
I realized that I had let control take control of me. The pitiful glass ceiling in my career only covered one room. I simply had to move. In doing so, I kicked down walls, opened my fists, and felt a sense of exhilaration I hadn't felt since Six Flags over Texas installed a double loop roller coaster. Guess what happens to a ceiling without support?
Feeling trapped? Let go of the need to know the end of every beginning. Take a chance on something new and let the sunshine in.
Monica Frazier Anderson
Thinking of leaving that corporate job and starting your own business? That's a great idea but there are many important factors to consider before you take the plunge. In this audio excerpt, Dr. mOe shares important questions you should ask and answer before you make a commitment that will impact every aspect of your life. Dr. mOe is a serial entrepreneur who has achieved business success in retail, health care, real estate, and publishing. Hear her share lessons learned and best practices from her own experiences. For more, subscribe to her iTunes podcast and YouTube channel. Then, visit her website at www.drmoeanderson.com today!
Friday, February 3, 2017
France is one of my favorite places to visit in Europe, especially Paris. When I got the opportunity to go skiing at the 2nd largest ski resort in the world, Paradiski in LaPlagne France, I was ecstatic.Wow! Experience of a lifetime. During one excursion between ski classes, we took a ride on the Bobsleigh track used in the '92 Winter Olympics. Our speed reached 80km/h. It was a jarring, exhilarating adrenaline rush! That's me - second from the front - light teal ski jacket. I have had a bucket list since I turned 40 years old. I could not cross bobsleighing off my list because I never dreamed of putting it on there! Lesson learned. Life is not a test. It's okay if some questions go unanswered.
Remember, your bucket list is not for dying, it's for living. Carpe diem!
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Friday, January 15, 2016
I have gained experiential wisdom from the loves of my life. Some lessons were exceptionally good. Some were simply enlightening. But, they all were essential in making me a better-than-I-used-to-be human…in progress.
A- absence is bad for the heart.
B- breathing deeply is an art form.
C- cuddling cures a bad day.
D- destiny is fluid.
E- exes don’t need a eulogy every day.
F- forgiveness propels you forward.
G- God is very detail oriented.
H- habit is a poor excuse for cheating.
I- imagi-Nation is a great place to travel.
J- joy—real joy—comes from within.
K- kindness in a kindred spirit is intoxicating.
L- lies are never little or white.
M- making good memories doesn’t require a passport or money.
N- never is relative.
O- over & I’m out might be a gift.
P- peace takes more courage than war.
Q- quiet is the sound of God’s sigh.
R- rain is a wonderful shower.
S- supernovas also occur on land.
T- to be or not to be requires strategic planning.
V- vengeance is expensive.
W- wait, then, wait some more when you’re angry.
Y- you deserve happiness.
Z- Zenith is love unleashed!
Copyright 2016 Monica F Anderson
Sunday, December 20, 2015
That’s why I am unclean. I don’t mean in the biblical sense; I mean I am afraid to stay in the shower for more than 2-3 minutes. So I alternate cleaning my major muscles like I alternate weightlifting at the gym. Monday, Wednesday, and Friday upper body, then, Tues and Thursdays thighs and calves. If I tarry too long, Apollo begins to do magic tricks. He can make random, dangerous objects appear out of nowhere. In fact, I didn’t know I owned so many books of matches. Who even uses matches anymore?
Anyway, every time he watches the movie, he laughs at the same jokes. He is mesmerized by the colors and characters. Do you know how much money I would save if I could be content with only one DVD? No more Netflix or Amazon streaming movies. No HBO fight nights. No Redbox.
Strange as it seems, he is teaching me something about patience and being in the moment. The more I watch this movie, the more I notice new, different things that I missed before rather like watching the old DVD’s of his father and brother when they were about his age. After he leaves, I’ll put the DVD on a shelf with the others. The memories? I suppose they will replay in my mind over and over, making me laugh at the same scene every time.