Saturday, October 20, 2018

Teaching A Dentist to Floss Ain't Easy (#Floss Dance)

I am never sure if my sons are laughing at me or with me but we have a lot of fun together. They ensure I can do the latest dance, learn the latest slang, and download the latest apps. I love the way they love me. Keeps me young and keeps us close. #family #flossing

Sunday, September 16, 2018

Listening Is The New Reading. My First Audio Book is Available on Audible and iTunes!

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It took six months to record 5 hrs and 15 mins with the pronunciation, tone, clarity, dB, pace, quality, and energy acceptable to my engineer, then my producer, then aka Audible. I don't have much free time on my "off day" as I do have that day job as a dentist, along with a few million other things I do for family and community. While many people encouraged me to do an audiobook, no one paid me, pushed me, or made me practice. Words in any form (writing, speaking, blogging, vlogging, poetry, workshops) are my calling. That's how I help others which is its own reward. That's why I kept repeating words and passages over and over until they said it was "right!"

I would love to sale a million downloads and get great reviews but, if I don't, I know my time and efforts were not in vain. I had the privilege of dreaming and the power to make that dream come true with help from industry experts who patiently showed me the ropes.

Do what you enjoy doing and do it well. Opportunity is inevitable. Preparation is optional. Are you ready?

Copyright 2018 Monica F. Anderson. All Rights.

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Zipline Adventure With Grandkids (Lessons in Confidence)

In one afternoon of sun and fun, I watched my oldest grandson go from shaky and fearful to bragging about his abilities as only little boys can do! We had fun. We both got exercise and I had the pleasure of coaching him through a challenging tasks with words of encouragement. In time, he will learn to in-courage himself. That's a skill we all need and it is a learned behavior. How do you teach your kids and grandkids to face their fears?

Friday, August 31, 2018

Real Beauty Tips from #RealSistersDallas (Part 4)

Part 4 is the last of this hilarious series. Silly. Fun. Real. Jaye, mOe and grandson discuss everything from hoarding to magnetic eyelashes (thumbs down). View the entire series on Dr. mOe Anderson's Youtube Channel @drmoeutube. Then, subscribe for other motivating and inspiring videos by author and speaker Dr. mOe Anderson. Thx!

Monday, August 27, 2018

Real Sisters Dallas Part 3 (Is facial cleansing harder than car washing?"

Part 3 of our LOL series on relationships, beauty tips, and busting myths! Subscribe on YT ! My real sister and I discuss real problems faced by real men and women with humor and heart. Tune in, lean back and laugh out loud! For video, visit

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Real Sisters Dallas Part 2 (Duchess of Sussex and Other Fun Things) #realsistersdallas

Topics in Part 2 include the Queen of England's beauty secret, Duchess Meghan Markle, argan oil, Crest Whitestrips, and my 10 year old grandson/director blurting out hilarious things from behind the camera. My real sister (Jaye Chase) and I do not have a huge budget or huge amount of time to apply make up. These are our real tips about products we really purchased and really use or threw away because they sucked. If this doesn't make you laugh, I don't know what will. No disclaimer needed. This is us and all us. This is a four part series. Visit Youtube/drmoeutube for video!

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Monday, August 20, 2018

Real Sisters Dallas LIfe Hacks, Beauty Tips, Laughs! Part 1 #realsistersdallas

My real sister and I do not have a huge budget or huge amount of time to apply make up. These are our real tips about products we really purchased and really use or threw away because they sucked. If this doesn't make you laugh, I don't know what will.

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Sunday, July 1, 2018

What NOT to Say to Your Friend With Cancer (Podcast)

I guess I have been writing this blog since around 2013. Five years is a long time to spend on a blog of a few hundred words. Right? That's because I reluctantly became a cancer Griot after my first diagnosis of a rare sarcoma (GIST) in 2012. I bounced back as best one can with the constant audio of falling mortars in the back of your mind. I know it's hard to understand how someone can grocery shop or celebrate a birthday in a war torn country, but I get it. You adapt. You alternate placing one foot six inches in front of the other. And you move forward. I used to tell people "it gets better with time." It doesn't. It only "gets easier" as does anything with repetition.

But you are not reading this for my story. You want to know what to say to your mother, father, BFF, colleague, or FaceBook friend who was recently diagnosed with cancer. Each year, over 12 million people in the world are diagnosed with cancer. The National Cancer Institute published this startling statistic recently, "In 2018, an estimated 1,735,350 new cases of cancer will be diagnosed in the United States and 609,640 people will die from the disease." Chances are you know one of those people very well.

Those of us caught in the eyewall of this malignant cyclone really need the emotional and physical support of the 7 billion people who don't have cancer more than we need better diets, meditation, and targeted immunotherapy. Without you, the reason for our reason, we cannot make the changes in our minds that make the changes in our body to win the epic fight against ourselves.

I have had 100's of people give me advice I never asked for about how to handle this diagnosis. Some of it was very helpful but some of it was incredibly hurtful. No, I can't speak for everyone but I've been a willing ear and an advocate for enough survivors to feel comfortable offering this advice on things you should avoid saying to someone with cancer:

  1. "Do you have a family history of cancer?...Have you been around chemicals?...Were you a smoker? What is your diet like?" or anything that may be construed as "you brought this on yourself". Even if I did, I'd rather hear it from the oncologist than my friend.
  2. "Disease is caused by sin...You need to repent." As said by the same people who brought you, God is love. After someone's foundation has been shattered, this sounds a lot like "God hates you". That may not be what you mean but that's what it feels like. I suggest you skip the "sinner" part and go straight to "God loves you". People need to be receptive to difficult messages and, well intended though you may be, condemning a person in anguish may push them farther into a depressed state. If you are Christian and inclined to share a scripture, consider John 9: 1-5.
  3. "Don't talk about it...Don't say 'I have cancer' because you attract negativity." For a person newly diagnosed with cancer, putting a sentence together is an act of sheer courage. The choice of pronouns or grammar, in general, is not high on the list of things we care about. This is a conversation that needs to take place because being positive and hopeful is essential to recovery. I preferred the gifts of audio books and paperbacks (#Dodie Osteen's book is a MUST) which conveyed the same message from a faceless third party with the same experience. And, I needed to talk about it and talk about it and talk about it for two years until I got to the point where it wasn't the start and end of my every thought. I could not keep all that confusion, rage, and heartbreak in my head. I am so grateful for the patient people who let me talk until I reached this place where I can help others.
  4. "The same thing happened to my friend's sister (insert long, detailed story that ends abruptly when you realize that other person died and now you don't quite know what to say." Just think it through 'til the end before you share someone else's cancer experience. If it did not end well, keep that yourself. Survival against all odds stories are better.

It's been six years since I was originally diagnosed and I could go on but I hope this is enough to give you a bit of insight. There is no right or wrong because everyone's needs are different. My best advice is to let the person with cancer lead the conversation. When you respond, say as many positive things as you can over and over.

Lastly, please, please don't avoid your friend or family member because you don't know what to say. Honestly, a few of my friends did not communicate with me until I was well on the road to recovery (months after my diagnosis) and that's the excuse they volunteered without prompting. I am not exaggerating when I tell you that hurt me emotionally as much as the two surgeries. Match their courage to live with your courage to love out loud. I am ashamed to admit this truth but it was very hard to forgive them. I did but our relationship turned a few degrees below comfortable.

Most people don't know what to say. You don't have to talk. Show up. Hug. Be present. Be kind. Ask "What do you need from me?" Then, love us hard even when we are hard to love. Fear changes you.

Thank you for caring enough to read this blog. Please share it with someone else who is wondering what to say.


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